Are you using the correct hair styling products, doing your deep treatments, practicing the Rake and Shake Styling technique, and still having challenges with your curls? Don't worry, it's all part of the process!
One of the main lessons to learn in embracing your curls, is to LET GO of trying to control them!!! This is where the psychology of a curly girl comes into play. We are so resistant to having wild, care-free hair when we see all the smooth, sleek styles in magazines, aren't we?!
Did you know that 80 percent of Americans have some type of a curl pattern? Did you also know that texture has been making a comeback for the last few years? You are beautiful just the way you are! You don't have to conform to the masses who are taming their tresses!
As long as you are doing your deep treatments (the correct way) at least once a month, and are using the right product prescription and styling regimen, you are doing all you can do. The rest is about letting go and being in the flow! You are perfect exactly where you are.
Look in the mirror each day and say to yourself: "I love you, (insert your name), I really do." Maybe while you're styling your hair, say a mantra like, "I love my hair exactly the way it is, right now". Before you know it, you'll believe it to be true. That's the power of affirmations - reprogramming the subconscious mind with positive thought patterns.
Your hair is an extension of your electromagnetic field (the unseen realm of your existence - aka your aura). When it is curly and wild, it's your inner nature to be seen that way, so let it BE!!
I invite you to sit with those thoughts, and see if you can discover the deepest fears you have around your hair and your beauty. You are a beautiful being and you should be sharing all that you are with the world, with confidence!
I have clients who feel that when they wear their hair curly, it walks into the room first! First of all, it's not nearly as big as you think it is, but secondly, how cool is it to make that statement!
As long as your armed with the tools to work with your curls, the final finesse in the process is just practicing letting go, and refining your styling habits.
When I do a Styling Lesson with a client, I shampoo their hair for them, and then I stand next to them as they are styling their hair themselves. I watch you and guide you along the way so you can see what you're doing right or wrong.
Most of the a-ha moments are as follows:
- Not using enough product in each section.
- Not organizing the sections properly.
- Raking the hair downward
- Shaking the hair wildly
- Forgetting to scrunch with a towel after applying product
- Over thinking it and making it harder than it needs to be
- Breaking it into too many sub sections
- If you resonate with any of the above mentioned, you might want to schedule a styling lesson with me. Your styling should take all of 5-10 minutes to apply the gel, and about 10-15 minutes to fully dry it with the diffuser.
It should come out roughly the same each time you style it, but it is natural for curls to have 'a mind of their own' so let go of trying to repeat what it looked like yesterday.
I wrote a blog post about my mom's experience when I invited her to wear her hair curly for 40 days straight. 40 days is a spiritually significant time period when you can re-establish a new pattern and let go of an old one. Check it out, and see if maybe you too can let go of trying to control your hair!
Stop taking out all your fears on your hair already and schedule a session with me, or refer to my curl cures resources! :)